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 Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 5:37 pm
my mom is constantly trying to convince me the babies father is a sleazebag., Hes a forigner, and is currently in his last year of medical school. She says she knows he has a wife and kids in china, and he doesnt care about me or our baby because hes contantly at school. Hes getting his phd, and its hard work. I do not complain of him being at school alot becuase he spends as much time with me as he can. And i know hes not married and im having his first baby. And once he graduates and gets a job, he can provide a good future for our baby.
What should i do? She wont listen to what i say and continues to talk bad of my fiancee.
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Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 7:19 pm
Mother always complain about these sort of things, theres nothing you can do, but try to get her to understand you chose him, having this baby for him was your chose, and saying she have something against the baby's daddy is saying she have something against the baby, her future grandchild.
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Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 7:25 pm
i love what she says to my married sister. "oh hes cheating on you"and " are you sure he fathered such a beautiful daughter?"
She also says her current husband is the best, sadly, he calls her names like stupid b***h and c**t when she makes a mistake. he also does weed and wont get a real job, delivering papers is not a real job!
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 1:41 am
Everyone believe only what they do is any good, i have three older sister (one for my just my dad and she live with her mom, one for just my mom, and me and my other sister for both) and i hear all the "wonderful" things my mom and dad says about them and their husband, and i see how they do their husbands and how their husbands do them and I've learned a lot and know and been knowing marriage isn't for me. I'll just get a wonderfully sweet lover who wants a child so i can have the daughter i want, then i'll get my own house, own car, and live my own life by my rules and not have to worry about what other say, even though i know they will always be their talking, but all they will be doing is hating.
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Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 7:55 am
my mom used to say the same things to me when me and my husband started dating, he was 18, and i was 14, she said that would use me and leave me. well were masrried now with a newborn son, i sorta think that if you know heloves you, ******** what other peolpe say
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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 5:43 am
i know he loves me very much. its easy to tell. you were 14 dating 18..i can kinda see why she thought he'd take advantage of you. most 18 think with thier penises and not thier brains. and many do date younger girls to take advantage. you were very lucky he didnt do that, but not all guys do take advantage. my mom is just horrible. shes now angry that we didnt go down for thanksgiving and i told her, 1. you never invited us in the first place, and u have my number, you can call me. 2, im not a dog, i dont come every time you snap your fingers get over it! 3,my grandma invited us , she called and told us the time to be there, and i already accepted her invite, so even if you did have the brain to call and invite, we already had plans elsewhere.
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Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 10:05 am
My second husband and I have been married for 13 years and my mom still hates him. He didn't go to her house with me for Thanksgiving, and all I got to hear was how worthless my husband is and how perfect my brother is. At some point, when reason and evidence fail, you just have to stop caring what they say.
She didn't like my first husband either, until I married the second one. Suddenly, the ex wasn't so bad anymore. rolleyes It doesn't make sense.
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Posted: Tue Nov 27, 2007 8:34 am
wow. 13 years! she still hates him? your mom can hold a grude, lol. its nice ur mom thinks one of her kids is perfect, my mom calls me and my 2 sisters mistkaes and disappointments.
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 12:52 pm
Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. sad I think that in the end, what's going to be best for you and your family is to cut your mother off. She is a toxic personality and she is just going to spew poison into your life for as long as you let her. Obviously by how she is viewing that her current husband is the "best" even though he is obviously abusing her shows what a skewed view of reality she has and if you do keep her in your life (which will most likely only result in your misery) you're going to have to find a way to ignore just about every thing she says.
Your honey is about to graduate med school. Obviously you found someone who is willing to work hard for what they want. And he wants you. That is a glowing accomplishment.
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Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 9:10 am
Sounds like your mother and my mother could be best friends love. Any guy I date she hates until some of them start reporting to her my activities then she adores him and they team up on me. She has told me and my little sisters repeatidly we are mistakes and that we should have never been born. She holds a grudge against me because I put my step dad in jail after years of sexual assault. So she likes to tell me all I am to her is a cleaning lady. I know its hard but Ive learned to not let her get to me anymore that everything she says she says cause shes a cold mean person. or mentally ill. It still hurts alot but hunny if you think hes the right one dont let her get you down about it because if your mother is like mine no one will ever live up to her standards and if you let her control your life like I have with so many people you end up losing the best ones.
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