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Porn talk2hand I don't even like the word. I mean to me porn is all about making the male superiour, female inferiour and in the worst case, animals equal. It gives young men the worst kind of image about sex and it puts pressures on their girls. I mean no one can win Jenna Jameson(?) or any other hot professional pornstar. I know that. I don't like porn, I think it's disgusting.

Of course gay porn is different. But I was talking about your average exploitment porn. It gives unrealistic image of sex and sexuality. I mean how many of us have heard this: "I saw this in a flick, can we try it?" from our boyfriends? Media is full of pure porn nowadays and that gives our bodies and minds a whole new set of shackles. We're expected to look and act like those ladies in the videos. They don't do it for fun, they do it for money and they have to do it just because the society doesn't give them any other choice. Just like prostitution.

So what we're saying is that porn is not disgusting, but the way women are portrayed in porn.

Most movies have violence, but does that mean that the movie is bad? Rather, isn't it how violence is overused in movies that is wrong?

While a lot of porn has violence in it, the majority that I watch (which is a lot), does not. I would say a lot of it belittles women, but does not portray violence.

We may have to go into our definition of violence with this one.

Another thing I should add as a history lesson. Bach in the 1950's women were viewed as baby-makers and house cleaners. The average age for a man to see a woman naked was at the age of 19 after marriage. They married young, poor and had kids. On top of that, the birth rate was astronomical. then a magazine called Playboy came along and eventually pre-teen boys would start to see these magazines and soon enough, the sex rate and birth rate went down (Due to the demand of Birth control pills and condoms) Then the 70's came along and women became more prevalent in the workforce and stay at home parents almost died off. So in reality, porn helped women into jobs.

I really think it depends what your watching. There is a lot of dumb stereotypical stuff and really strange stuff. (I work at a video store with porn, don't ask).

But I donno. I'm someone who think that women should be able to choose what they want to do, and if that is porn or stripping or "escorting" so be it. Its up to them to decide, although I do also think there should also be social supports for women so they don't get forced into it.

Personally, I'm in the "Sex is better, porn is a poor time waster at best" camp. So far as my guy goes, eh. He can do what he likes. We've got decent enough communication to work though either of our desires to try stuff as it comes up.

With violence I mean sexual violence like rape and mutilation. I have to admit though that I don't understand Bondage/SM at all. Some of the decent fetish outfits are cool but most of them go totally...well...let's just say that I don't understand the whole thing.
To me sex isn't even important, it's just a form of physical love and the natural way to make babies. It's not a big deal in my relationships. I'm not A sexual or anything, I like sex but I don't understand why people make it such a big deal.