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 Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 7:26 pm
Hey everyone,
Ok here's my issue, i've been with my boy for six months now and i've yet been able to let him penetrate me. We've tried 3 times and 3 times i've back out, the first time he went all the way in but i felt a little dizzy and we stopped, second time we tried a different position, the same happend again and the third time it hurt too much going in and i stopped him before he was in. So it seems like we're going backwards. My boy's great and is being totally understanding but i want to be able to do this for him.
Any advice you could give will be greatly appreciated
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Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 8:01 pm
Lots of lube and practice with fingers first?
The two times I've been penetrated I didn't like it either and didn't take it very long. >__>
So I'm just gonna stick to oral.
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Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 10:00 pm
Nusumi Lots of lube and practice with fingers first? The two times I've been penetrated I didn't like it either and didn't take it very long. >__> So I'm just gonna stick to oral. lol one of my natural talents and probably the reason he doesn't mind not being able to penetrate me
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 9:28 am
YOu have to make sure you relax b4 hand. If your body is tence then it wont go in well and will hurt like a b***h. You have to breathe and make sure your body isn't uptight. If you relax and think about how good it will feel then it will work better. Beside it hurts a lil every time, no matter how many times you do it.
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Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 5:40 am
I have the same problem, and every time that my boyfriend I get together we keep trying. Basically use lube (lots and lots of lube) and be sure that you've tried to penetrate yourself either with fingers or a p***s analogue before you and your boy try it again.
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Posted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 4:22 pm
Sex toys plane and simple. Try to find one that is just a little smaller than your BFs then lube up and have some fun.
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Posted: Wed Mar 19, 2008 9:13 pm
Make sure you're well lubricated first. It might help if you do some, well I call it frodding, but people may contest with me over its actual definition. Basically have him rub his c**k up and down your a** crack without actually entering. Playing with the area might help you to relax and open up more. For your first time the cowboy style might not be ideal, but I find it easier because you control the pace of entry. Doggie is good too because your lying on your stomach and your legs aren't hanging in the air which might be more comfortable too. Don't forget to relax and take a deep breath before penetration. Have you tried rimming to help you loosen up? Hm, just some thoughts.
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Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 10:05 pm
ok so some people have the right idea. when i first was bottoming for my bf it did hurt like a biatch and i used to bleed afterwards. however he got into the habit of not just shoving it in, but also playing with the area and taking it slow at first and now i bottom for him just as much as he used to bottom for me. which was a lot! Try taking a warm shower and just letting the hot water hit yer lower back to relax the area. then try rimming and or digital penetration, first just one then more fingers. Just remember to relax and not worry about any messes! it wont happen usually. Believe me once you get the hang of bottoming, it's heaven on earth! It's funny cuz i thought that i would never get use to my partner cuz he is a good size for me anyways, but with practice and patience we are versatile with each other now and loving every minute of it. It is also a thing of letting yerself surrender to him since it is a very giving moment when you let someone inside you. For me one of my exes could never get in there, it just hurt too much but then i didnt really love him. Just take it slow and have fun man.
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Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 12:22 pm
armand7 ok so some people have the right idea. when i first was bottoming for my bf it did hurt like a biatch and i used to bleed afterwards. however he got into the habit of not just shoving it in, but also playing with the area and taking it slow at first and now i bottom for him just as much as he used to bottom for me. which was a lot! Try taking a warm shower and just letting the hot water hit yer lower back to relax the area. then try rimming and or digital penetration, first just one then more fingers. Just remember to relax and not worry about any messes! it wont happen usually. Believe me once you get the hang of bottoming, it's heaven on earth! It's funny cuz i thought that i would never get use to my partner cuz he is a good size for me anyways, but with practice and patience we are versatile with each other now and loving every minute of it. It is also a thing of letting yerself surrender to him since it is a very giving moment when you let someone inside you. For me one of my exes could never get in there, it just hurt too much but then i didnt really love him. Just take it slow and have fun man. Text book reply! Spice it up use toys, fingers, tongues and lube build up to the big event and as my dear friend nannys says " once you build up some scar tissue you wont hurt at all" she also said i would learn to love strawberries (ick -she was not right about everything! be paitent and do it right most importantly of all wear a condom!
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Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2008 9:46 pm
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Posted: Wed Oct 29, 2008 1:53 pm
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Posted: Thu Dec 11, 2008 9:10 pm
Lube + fingers to stretch has to be the best way to go.
As a bottom that's taken on some... er... sizable tasks in my time,
I'm going to say that that's the best way to go.
OH. And RELAX. Tensing your muscles in anticipation will not help the process.
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