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In the past few months my wife has often brought up the idea of using a strap-on (serious apologies if that's not PG-13), and every time she has she's sort of joked around about it. Tonight we had a discussion about whether or not she really did want to use one, and she said she wasn't sure, just that it kept popping into her head. She said she's worried that it means she subconsciously wants to be a man and something's wrong with her, or that she'll pressure me into doing something I don't want. I really want to assure her that her confusion and her curiosity are perfectly fine and healthy, but she's still unsure.

What would you recommend I do to make her more comfortable about discussing it with me, or to make it easier for her to figure out how she feels about it? I want to be as reassuring and supportive as possible, and I told her that I was fine with the idea, but it still bothers her and I wonder if I'm missing anything. Any suggestions on how I can make this easier for her to understand/figure out?

Again, I'm sorry if this isnt appropriate and feel free to delete it if it's not. I just wasn't sure where else to ask.

Thanks for your advice and for assuring me I could post this here. It is more of a "someday" kind of thing, as we don't really have the money right now to be buying things like that, and I want to give her time to figure out how she really feels about it. I just want to make it easier for her, so she's not riddled with confusion.