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So I joined Gaia because I had first started dating my bf and he was really into it...and to tell the truth, it sort of annoyed me how much time he spent on it. I thought it was pathetic at first, the concept of his spending so much time on a site devoted to basically dressing up a virtual doll. For a while I was hesitant, but then I figured I might as well try to get involved in something he treated like the greatest thing since video games.

For the first six months to a year I was pretty unenthusiastic and inactive. I was doing 12 extracurriculars at the time anyways and didn't really have the extra hour in my schedule. When summer hit, though, I found the ED. So basically for me, Gaia's saving grace was its debate forums. Yeah it's fun to play the economy and get pretty pixels to put on a cute little avi, too, but for me, that's not the part that keeps me here. Obviously, since most of you can tell I don't care that much about dressing up my avi (I haven't changed it for over a year except to add a newer item every now and then). Another thing that keeps me here are the friends I have in RL that are on it...and the friends I've made, like our old captain Jack (Monkeyinafryingpan). Some of these people have even been there for me and helped me to endure during difficult times.

Now here's the rub. After the break up and the attempts to reconcile, I finally ended things permanently with him a few months ago...mostly because of broken promises, broken trust, and his refusal to stop doing things that caused me a lot of emotional pain. It also just so happens that a little while ago he became a site mod on Gaia.

He's already unhappy that I didn't let our breakup destroy my friendships with his mom and brother, but I figured he'd be preoccupied enough with going out with his ex-gf of last summer and wouldn't bother me. And yes, in case he's reading this, I know more than he thinks. So yeah, although I considered the possibility of him trying to ban me on Gaia with his new Mod status, I figured he probably wouldn't care enough to do it since it's not like I bump into him on the site anyways. Were I posting in the same places with my mule, he'd probably never, if rarely, encounter me on Gaia.

I figured wrong. Apparently he is post-stalking me on Gaia because I just got an official mod pm from him about a comment I made that he deleted. It was a simple "informal warning." I had posted in a thread entitled something to the effect of "I Hate Gay People" in which the creator was ranting about not wanting to have to "deal with" them. My response was an exceedingly facetious comment offering 3 solutions that included running away from everyone you can't deal with, murdering everyone you can't deal with, and suicide. Apparently it was the sarcastic comment about suicide that warranted the warning. I'm willing to accept the fact that it probably was toeing the line. Still, comments like "I wish my grass was emo so it would cut itself" advocates cutting in jest and are found all over Gaia.

So the bottom line is that he is probably going to continue stalking me. He will probably be reading all of my future posts on Gaia. He would probably like nothing more than to find any random excuse to get me banned. It wouldn't be easy for him to legitimately get me banned, I think, considering that I've minded the TOS and I don't usually even toe the line (that post I got the warning on wasn't my usual deal anyways). Still, the thought of him reading all of my posts makes Gaia that much less appealing.

My friend Dianna has already left Gaia. Monkey/Captain Jack is hardly ever on anymore (we communicate more through Facebook and Aim now than Gaia). Most of my closer friends here are of the older generations and are dropping out of Gaia one by one.

I'm thinking that Gaia won't be as fun knowing that my ex will be reading all of my posts, trying to come up with whatever he can to get me banned. I guess I could create another mule and post with that, but even then there'd have to be posts telling people who the mule really is and he would probably pick up on it. So. If he's going to try to mark his online territory, whatever.

I might not even bother with Gaia anymore. If I want to discuss things or debate things, there are always RL friends and other forums. I just thought you guys should have some sort of explanation in case I disappear again...and possibly for good. You're free to try to persuade me otherwise.

I've loved posting in this guild. Watching it grow from the seedling it was when I joined to one of the best guilds on Gaia has been a pleasure. There have been loads of memorable posts and moments. Thanks for everything, guys.

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man, that has to suck majorly.
if i was you i'd leave, if it has no appeal anymore.
do what is healthy for you,
and what you believe is right^^

howd he get to be a mod!? old boy musta been on here ALOT ya hear me... because if the CEOs were able to notice him and gain some sort of a relationship to where they made him a mod of gaia then DAYUMN... he must be like "gung ho" gaia cause the way you described him he seems like a gaia fan boy or something