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The only ex I have that I still care about and who also cares about me stopped talking to me for a good five months after we split. I was a major a** when we broke up, mainly because of the reason WHY she broke up with me and because she likes to not tell me anything. We basically didn't talk or even look at each other for the next said five months, but we both stilled watched each other to see how we were doing. I sat a couple tables across from her at lunch during that time, facing away from her, and one of my friends sat in front me, facing me and her. My friend always thought she was looking at him, but she was glancing over at me to see how I was doing. We're totally not right for each other relationship-wise, but I'd take a bullet for that girl in a ******** heartbeat still. We both love each other very deeply, just not romantically. We're more like really tight brother and sister. We're closer to each other than any of our friends even though we hardly ever see each other.

THEN there's the ex I had who I felt the most comfortable with and who did the most for me, but she ended up cheating on me for a very long time. I'm almost completely over her now, but even though she's a cheating whore, I was still always open for her if she ever needed me. It didn't help me to get over her any, but I can't just stop loving someone after I've started, regardless of how much they treated me like s**t =/

The longest I've been with the first one who doesn't suck is three months, and the longest I've been with the cheating whore was ten months, but she cheated on me for seven of those months, so it might as well just be three. I'm a terrible boyfriend =[ As for advice, basically just get everything of hers out of your sight. "Out of sight, out of mind" fits perfectly here, although it takes a while. I have everything of my last ex's all taped up in a shoebox with black electric tape and I shoved it in some corner. I'll be returning it to her eventually so I'll never have to see it. It gets easier to forget someone if you have nothing around you to remind you of them. I still think of her when like certain songs pop up or something like that, but I never actually think about her. It does take a while, though, it certainly won't be an instantaneous thing.

hmm i've been like this for a while now.. I broke up with my BF about a month ago.. and even though he didnt treat me the best afterwards.. even though he's moved on already (after three weeks, he found himself a gf..and it was a girl he told me at one time was "just a friend") , and I feel a bit stupid to still think of him, I do sometimes.. Was she your first relationship? Sometimes you'll feel like this towards your first because you had such a long emotional attachment to her (add the 2 years in there too) you've probably shared a lot of memories together too.

But what Dio said is right, block her off your Gaia, Facebook, etc so you cant look at her and you resist the tempation, even though it might be hard. I blocked my ex on facebook for awhile, but we decided to talk (and we are now "we call ourselves friends but will never talk to each other") and i unblocked him again. It helps so you cant look back in the past and wonder. Sometimes its better not to.

Also, hang out with the ones that are close to you, friends, family, and make new memories. What i found has helped is making new friends! Someone you can share your stories with and it seems like they are so new and amazing to them =D I met a great new friend (whom I also kinda sorta have a crush on..haha...) and we hang out together and talk about everything =D

She was my fourth relationship actually, but the longest one I've ever been in. She helped me get out of my emo phase and my stupid habits. She wasn't the first, but man I put so much into the relationship. I thought I was gonna spend the rest of my life with her. We made plans. I even went to an out of state college just so I could be closer to her and take the bus to her house on weekends so she'd be happy. And now she never wants to talk to me again. I think that upsets me the most is that after everythin' I'm left with nothin' but memories. I know the memories are a lot, but I really enjoyed talkin' to her and sharin' stories. I've always wanted to keep in touch with everyone I ever knew, even my ex's, but they would always just disappear and never talk to me again like I meant nothin' to them. I guess that's normally how relationships end, but I just could never grasp that.
I'm tryin' to block her off but at the same time I don't want to yet. She's about to get braces, screws, and teeth pulled in just a few days and I want to make sure she'll be alright. I know what type of person she is and I'm worried that it'll be too much for her, plus she's not very open so what if no one's there for her? I was with her for so long and affected her so much, I can't just abandon her and leave her on her own, I want to make sure she'll be alright, but then it's really frustratin' when I can tell that things aren't right but there's no one there for her and I can't do anythin' because she never wants to see me or talk to me again.

And you know what's weird? In every relationship I've been in I can't remember how they ended. Or when. I can remember very specific days when I was with them and how we met, but when it comes to when we broke up my mind's always blank.

And I'm sorry about bein' all whiney. I know that probably everyone here has experienced the same thing and most likely worse then I have.

honestly, i saw him the other day and i felt.. well nothing for him, yet SOMETHING is telling me to keep by his side and be there for him though i know im not wanted around. Kinda like Semok, I want to know how he is, i know him as well.. he doesnt have a lot of friends here so i hope he is still getting out and having a good time.. his new GF should help. (she better know how lucky she is.. biatch) it also helps that muh friends hate him too XD and also how he made me feel when i found out he had a GF.. and he called me a Liar (see my HOR topic) it was like everything that he said and done with me meant next to nothing..
but wow Will.. you deserve OH so much better than that =D

anyways Semok, I know its hard, but you do have to slowly break things off, no matter how hard it is to let go , you have to be hard on yourself to do so. I dont want to be .. rude but if she doesnt want to talk to you, its because she either doesnt want to hurt you, or doesnt want to be hurt by you. I know she made be going through a hard time, maybe leave her a message and say if you want to talk, then she can talk but if not, then you understant. let her be the one to make the choice.

but its good to get things like this off your chest though. believe me, i went through so much pain in the first few weeks of my own break up and jsut wanted to die and i felt i had no reason to live. I posted here, on a teen help site just to get it off my chest and it helped so much

Hating your ex helps. Mine decided to call me to chat it up a few weeks ago while she was drunk. Asked her about it the next day, found out she was drunk, and that she had had a boyfriend for the last seven months [good umber huh?] without even telling me. Hating isn't really a good path to go down, though. You're better off just removing everything of her's from your sight.

Ok, so I think I've figured out what bothers me so much. It's not that I still love her or anythin' like that, it's just the fact that I can't talk to her anymore.

See, I may not love her but we still had a ton in common and she was loads of fun talkin' to. I liked talkin' to her, I just didn't like bein' in a relationship with her. But now I'm pretty much not allowed to talk to her because she never wants to speak to me again, and it just hurts because I've never had that many close friends that actually talk to me because they wanted to. I've never been popular (wow, big surprise there) and people always teased me and made fun of me because I'm...well...a freak, so to lose what little I have of a true friendship is what's botherin' me the most.

Anyhoo, now that I know the problem I can find solutions! I already feel better just knowin' what's botherin' me. YAY! whee