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 Posted: Mon Jun 15, 2009 6:02 pm
So yeah, I met this one guy and we been hanging out for a couple months and what not. We eventually upgraded to friends with benefits and so far it so good.
I just don't know what to do in the future. I've already told him that I have no interest what-so-ever in dating him and he said he's fine with that. What I don't know about is what I'm going to do when the one I love moves out to where I am. Even though it's not going to be for at least a year and I have to find another job still.
Eh. I just know it we could go back to the friends part without the sex when my lover gets here because I don't want to lose him for this guy.
I guess I'll figure something out.
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Posted: Mon Jun 22, 2009 7:07 pm
Let the friend-with-benefits know that this is a temporary situation, and you'd like to return to friends at some point in the future...
Also, let the person you live know that you're doing this, make sure they're alright with it. Love needs complete honesty. If they're not alright with it, consider whether you're willing to stop now for them, and if you'll be willing to make other such compromises in the future...
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Posted: Thu Jul 16, 2009 1:29 am
Well, I've had an interesting predicament come up. My love seems to be mildly accusing me of cheating on him even though he said that I could date other people and all that lot. He brings up the fact that I'm "dating" this other guy in every letter he sends me saying that he's still fine with it all in a long, drawn out, and depressive way.
So the question is do I ask him why he's so jealous all of a sudden or if we not see each other that way anymore?
I still hang out with my friends occasionally and nothing has changed there between me and him but I'm getting rather irritating with my love's incessant, hardly concealed whining.
The sad thing is it isn't like I could ever not see him again either for reasons I would rather not disclose unless absolutely necessary.
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Posted: Fri Jul 24, 2009 4:51 am
The reason he might be jealous is because he feels that "what's his should be his and only his" you may want to talk to him about the openness of your relationship because he isn't obviously not comfortable enough with it.
Not to be blunt, but if you have a friend with benefits so to speak then you shouldn't commit to a relationship either. Talk to your love about this and ask yourself if you can be dedicated to your love. if you can't, try to think on it as a single person and stay that way without going back to your friend. it's something you might need to consider.
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