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Posted: Fri Sep 11, 2009 6:13 pm
I'm only 17, so i don't know if I'm ready to be a mother, or to tell my mother about this. Would an abortion really solve anything? I'm Christian, and it goes against our beliefs to abort! WHAT DO I DO!?
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 2:13 pm
I am 18 so I might be able to help you a little since we are so close in age. Ok, I am also Christian and I feel that the only reason abortion should be thought of is if it is life or death situation. There is also some things that can go wrong in an abortion that might make it impossible for you to carry again but that is a one in a million chance and with the right doctor that would never happen. Ok, now that we have that out of the way, first thing you need to do is tell the father! The father helped make it and so he has every right to know that there was a baby involved. You are going to have to go to your mother sooner or later. Your going to grow like a pregnant woman does and she will eventually put two and two together and figure it all out. There is also less pads she will have to buy to. So once those are out of the way you can really think about what I have to say next. The adoption for babies in the united states is years long. People wait years just to get a pretty baby they can hold in their arms. However, I would not do it personally because I could not bare the thought of having the small life out of my body and never seeing it again. Even an open adoption can go to no contact. The people who adopted the baby might leave and not tell you and then you don't have the contact. If your still in school and want to finish while taking care of the baby you can still go. Talk to your principle or someone about 'charter' schools. I go to one and know a lot of teen mothers who had children and finished school. You do have a choice, you have a lot of them. Just don't flunk out because you think you will not be able to do it. You are a strong woman who can do anything.
In my opinion I would say don't give it up. However, that is the way I would act in the same situation. I have thought about it millions of times and made the same end result no matter how much I look at it. I can not think to separate a child from its real mother and father. However, that is what I would do not you. Fallow what you want to do not what other people tell you to do. If you ever need any advise then just talk to me. I have talked to a lot of expecting teen mothers in the same position. Two of my cousins were teen mothers actually and they are both the best parents I ever saw. I hope that I have helped and you can figure everything out for yourself.
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PrincessSerenity_Mkingdom Captain
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Posted: Mon Jun 14, 2010 12:17 pm
Religion should not come into mind when thinking of decisions for someone else. If abortion feels like the right thing to do, do it. If adoption feels right, do it. It's not as easy as I make it seem, I know... but this is where discussing it and really thinking it through comes to play.
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Posted: Thu Jun 24, 2010 3:52 pm
love, i could just imagine how overwhelmed you are in this situation. for me, abortion may be a solution, but it would not be something i would choose for myself regardless of how hard life is and responsibility that goes with being a young mom facing too many things in life. i believe that nothing in this life is by accident. when you got pregnant, it was meant to be. a baby is never a baggage in a woman's life. men could be! 4laugh BUT NEVER YOUR BABY. your baby is innocent, and is your mini-you. would you like to kill or get rid that part of you? that little baby that will love you, rely on you, believe in you and make you smile when she/ he starts smiling at you and recognize that you are his/her mommy? life, indeed is very hard! as in hard! but when was it not, anyway? so, regardless if you're pregnant or not, life would still be hard. why resort to abortion? continue with having the baby. i believe God wants you to have that baby for a reason. i believe God wants you to be closer to Him and get strength from Him that is why he gave you that gift. A baby is a gift from God. Do not get rid of your baby. Your baby is yours.
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