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 Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 7:22 am
 Hello mommies and daddies. :]
I've decided to make this sub forum thread to keep things active and moving.
Here, we can have weekly discussions on certain topics, the topics changing every sunday morning. :]
So feel free to dig in, whether you have a teen or a munchkin.
RULES-
THESE ARE IMPORTANT, SO LISTEN UP.
1. This is a discussion, or a DEBATE. Not "I'm going to shove my ideas down your throat until you turn blue." Kay?
2. Follow gaia tos. This should be self explanatory.
3. I reserve the right to add more rules as I see fit.
This week!
How do you feel would be an appropriate amount of time to *force* your child to spend with you a week?
Or should they be able to choose the amount themselves?
So many teenagers have begun to drink at parties by the middle of high school. How would you prevent your teen from joining in?Would you try to prevent them from joining in?
More and more cases of teen sexting are appearing in the news and so are discussions on what the laws for teen sexting should be. What do you think is the appropriate punishment for teen sexting?
With the laws concerning marijuana going through changes, it seems that there may be very few legal consequences if a teenager is caught with marijuana. What impact can a parent have in this situation?
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 7:39 pm
I kinda slide both ways with this. I think their are times a child/teen should be home with their family and times they can be out doing whatever. I wouldn't mind if my daughter wanted to be out every friday night as long as I knew where she was and she home atleast by noon saturday.
Sundays are a must to be home because I'm a church attender and my kids shall be too as long as they live with me but thats a whole other topic.
Holidays on the other hand are ALWAY family events. Now if she wanted her Bf to come over for thanksgiving or whayever I'd be okay with that as long as shes not the one leaving to go someplace.
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Z-MusicalChairMassacre-U Captain
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 10:17 am
I think that a teen/child should be with their families during family events as well. Birthdays, weddings, and holidays.
And as far as going out, I definitely think there should be a little leeway depending on the age of the child.
If theres trust, then I say its fine as long as I know where he/she is and when he/she will be back. :]
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 2:00 pm
He's not my son but my little brother, however he is living with me and my husband and daughter. He's 17 and extremely anti-social. He never goes out even though I've tried to nudge him to do it. His version of going out is getting my tv and bringing it to his room to play games. I wouldn't mind if he went out, curfew would by midnight or 1 depending on what he was doing and as long as I knew where he was going. I try to make sure we have dinner as a family but my husband's work just shifted him to swings (3 pm - 11pm or later) and now it's virtually impossible. We try holidays but I am Wiccan, my husband is an aetheist, and my brother...well he just doesn't care.
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Posted: Sun Apr 11, 2010 5:22 pm
This one is kinda tough. All you can really do is teach them and hope it sticks..I mean if you drill to hard they'll do it just to rebel. In my case I could see those who drank around me and figured how stupid it was on my own. I didn't need to try to see the causes. I'll teach sasha the effects of drinking and hopfully she'll ether be safe about it or not do it at all like myself
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Posted: Sun Apr 11, 2010 5:26 pm
Again, my brother doesn't go out and he is not allowed to drink at home. In South Dakota, 18+ are allowed to drink in their home as long as their parent/guardian who is over 21 is there to supervise. I still refuse to let him drink. As for my daughter, I too will teach her the causes and effects of drinking and hope she makes the right decision.
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Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 4:49 pm
In my own humble opinion, I believe that there is an age limit for a reason.
You can either respect that, or not. I will teach my child the side effects of alcohol, and what it can get you into if you arent careful, Although, I will also tell them that if they still choose to drink, that theybetter not get back behind the wheel, They better call me.
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Posted: Thu Apr 15, 2010 8:32 am
Romantic AIDs In my own humble opinion, I believe that there is an age limit for a reason. You can either respect that, or not. I will teach my child the side effects of alcohol, and what it can get you into if you arent careful, Although, I will also tell them that if they still choose to drink, that theybetter not get back behind the wheel, They better call me. I think a age limit is a good thing but I have to say I disagree with it being 21. I think a high age is required that I think its stupid that you can smoke, die in the army, buy a home, have kids, etc etc before you can have a drink confused
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Z-MusicalChairMassacre-U Captain
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 11:08 am
Topic 3 : Okay let me take a second to roll this one so I don't say something stupid hahaha..
If I caught my daughter sexting I would maybe take her phone away for a couple of days but I think that would be the extent of my punishment (As long as no images are texted!!). If its all verbal (words) I would make fun and pick more then I would punish. In all honestness I might acually be happy to see it cause sexting means they most likely arn't having sex in rl which would make me happy. Sexting to me is like a form of masterbation. As long as nothing like pictures are involved I'd be okay I think.
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 5:21 pm
If I was paying for the cell phone, which I probably wont be considering it isnt a necessity, I would not allow it. Its innapropriate, especially if it was with her/his boy/girlfriend.
I would really have to think of a suitable punishment, something her/his father and I would be discussing together.
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Posted: Sun Apr 25, 2010 1:37 pm
This to me is similar to the drinking topic but yet so very diffrent. As far as prevention goes its the same thing. All you can do it hope you taught the child well enough and that their smart enough to think for themselves.
On the otherhand if I caught sasha drinking but she was being smart/safe about it like spending the night at a friends (not driving around) or staying home I would punish her but not as bad as if she was being dangerous about it. Now weed on the other hand would be a harsh punishment no matter what.
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