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 Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 7:42 pm
Okay, so I've been molested/sexually attacked, and I'm haunted from it. I have to deal with the guy who raped me; on a normal basis at school.
In my creative writing class, everytime we talk about school violence, or talk about the school magazine, his name always is said several times. The first time was less than a month ago, when people said his name in my class, it triggered the pain and I feel so vulnerable and get so claustrophobic. Everybody's voice gets louder and I wish I could get away, so I cross my arms and pull them into my stomach for comfort but it never helps. I start to break down in class and have to leave. Then the same thing happened yesterday when his name was mentioned again, the same class, and the same reaction occured. I'm taking therapy, but it's not helping much at all. I don't know what to do. I feel worthless and used and hurt just thinking about what he did to me, the threats, the touching, the decieving, and I can't even do anything about it.
MY QUESTION:
His name is a trigger, and how do I even get over these feelings everytime i hear his name? What do I do? Are there certain words that are triggers that are normal and effect rape/molestation victims this way? How do I get over it? If anyone has any answers, I would really appreciate it. Thank you so much.
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Posted: Sun Apr 18, 2010 9:42 pm
Many words can be triggers even if they seem like just any old words to other people. I once had a friend who every time this one word was spoken (can't remember what it was), she would become very emotional.
Getting over triggers isn't always easy, especially if it's something commonly heard or seen. It could take a 3 weeks or 3 years, if you get what I mean. And, yes, therapy doesn't always help. It's good to ask for help and have people who are willing to help if you need it. But sometimes you have to train yourself by yourself. When others aren't doing (or can't do) anything, try pushing yourself forward a little at a time at a comfortable pace. Hopefully, you will get over it eventually.
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