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 Posted: Thu Apr 15, 2010 10:15 pm
ok so let's start out with the fact that i'm lez. but there's this guy i'm madly in love with, not sexually. we were (yes, were) such close friends, that >click< it just sorta happened. we knew practically everything about each other, and we knew each other for barely over a year. we hung out everyday (except during summer of 09--he was in Vegas) and we were inseperable (ok maybe we were...). he hates me, but he wrote me a note saying that he was wondering how i was doing and that he wants to be my friend again but "right now wouldn't be best". he said that even though his previous friends are closer to him now, he said "...but not as good of friends as you and i were." what should i do? and my real question is...does that make me bi for liking one guy in a non-sexual way?
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Posted: Fri Apr 16, 2010 2:10 am
Not at all.
It's not sexual, so it's not about your sexuality.
The limitations on love are so silly. I think that's a really big problem with the way our society is set up. Emotional involvement and sexual involvement are very different ideas.
Close friends aren't the same as intimate partners. Even an intimate partner without close friends outside of that is kind of unrealistic. A lover is not the same as a best friend.
In other words, the fact that he's a guy doesn't really make a difference.
I hope things work out with your friend. Losing that connection can be really hard.
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Posted: Tue Apr 20, 2010 9:21 am
Sounds like you are headed for some serous heartache. I'd also go so far as to suggest you may actually be bi, and you simply haven't allowed yourself to believe you could actually be interested in a guy. By any chance did you tell him you aren't interested in guys? As far as friendship, and love, yes it's possible to be in love with someone without their ever being a sexual attraction. However, a relationship between too people can only go so far without it. Just how badly do you want to be with him? Be open, and honest to yourself and start asking those hard questions.
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Posted: Fri Apr 23, 2010 7:40 pm
KitzumiKitty Sounds like you are headed for some serous heartache. I'd also go so far as to suggest you may actually be bi, and you simply haven't allowed yourself to believe you could actually be interested in a guy. By any chance did you tell him you aren't interested in guys? As far as friendship, and love, yes it's possible to be in love with someone without their ever being a sexual attraction. However, a relationship between too people can only go so far without it. Just how badly do you want to be with him? Be open, and honest to yourself and start asking those hard questions.
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Posted: Wed May 19, 2010 11:25 am
How about an update? We'd love to here how you are. smile
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