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 Posted: Fri Aug 27, 2010 8:18 pm
okay so the father recently decided he wasn't going to stay with me but he wanted to shuttle the kid between houses each week, since well we both live within 2 minutes walking of eachother.
he doesn't think we will last if he moves in to help, and the kid isn't born yet.
but im just worried that it wont work out and will cause more problems than help....
he said wait till teh kid is 3 to start switching houses though. He'd still help me take care of it till then, but he wont be here to help with night feedings, changings, or pretty much anything till it starts going between houses.
do you guys think it is a good idea to raise it as best friends and shuttle the kid between the houses starting at age 3?
(keep in mind i'll be 18 by the time the kid is born)
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Posted: Sat Aug 28, 2010 10:28 am
Personally, within the first fews years of life, baby should be in one stable home.
And by raising baby as "best friends", it might make the relationship between you and the father confusing for baby. And though, baby will most likely have a "father-figure" baby still needs someone who does not mind filling the spot of the father. Not the person who is pretending to be father, and not the random male who is just taking care of baby.
It could work out though,
But you'd both have to decide how long baby will stay at each person's house. Technically, it'd be better for baby to stay with both parents during the early stages of life so that when the day comes for you to hand over baby to the "father-figure", baby will recognize him, and accept him.
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Posted: Mon Sep 20, 2010 4:40 pm
Right now we have figured out that the kid will stay with me for the first three years of its life because its father will be off fighting in the war... im not too happy about that either but ive tried all i can to get him not to go... he signs tomorrow and leaves ten days after im due for basic training for 4 weeks.... i guess he will be back for 2 months out of the year for r and r. but thats about it...
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