Ah, a situation I can empathize with.
I was 17 when my parents got divorced. I was not to fond of my father either and to spite his many attempts to convince me to move in with him, I chose to live with my mother who (while also drove me crazy) I got along better with. My father left and I only saw him a handful of times after that. He did try to call me on my birthday every year and on some of the high holy days but that was the most contact we had.
It is now seven years later and I just spent a two week long road-trip with him (that was a little over two months ago) and we're tight. I guess what our relationship needed was just to have a little distance put between us for some time. I needed to figure out who I was and he needed to rediscover himself as something other than a 'family man'. Our relationship isn't exactly what you'd call 'father-son' but it works for us.
Now, judging by the tone of your allusions to your relationship with you father, your situation was probably a bit more severe than mine. But without knowing the details (which I will not ask you for, if you wanted to share would have and I respect that) I still suggest you ask your father for a little time and distance. You never know, it took me and my father seven years to reconcile, you might only need one or two. It depends on your situation.
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