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 Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2007 9:08 pm
Ahhhh, marriage. The time to be bounded for life (or until a simple divorce) to the one that you extremely love. It is also the time to take on a new last name.
While you don't ncessarily have to change your name, it is usually expected or "traditional."
How do you see this? When you get married, will you change your last name or keep it?
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Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2007 12:48 am
Hyphenating/combining is also an option, and I've heard that some couples choose a completely new last name together.
And here's an interesting, sad thing -- a woman can change her last name to her husband's last name automatically and for free when she gets married, but if a man wants to take on his wife's last name, he has to go through the separate legal name change process and pay the full price for a legal name change.
I'm a lesbian, so taking on my future spouse's last name is not something that's expected. If I ever do get married, hopefully legally but even with just a civil union/ceremony/etc., I would probably either hyphenate is, assuming she had a relatively short last name, or I'd just take on her last name completely. The first one is because I am sort of a romantic and I like the idea of combining them, but if it were the second one it would be because her last name is better I just don't like how my first and last names sound together, haha.
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Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2007 7:21 am
I dunno... some last names just don't fit well with some first names... I don't know what me and my honey will do, but I think her name would sound sorta funny with my last name, so I'd prefer to change my last name... but damn this sexist legal system!
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Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2007 10:30 am
I will remain Ms. and I will likely hyphenate too. A last name is the connection to your family, I think it's very meaningful. That being said, I don't feel very connected to my biological family, but it is where I came from. I think it counts for something, it's something that should be remembered.
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Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2007 12:26 pm
Pandora Box I'm a lesbian, so taking on my future spouse's last name is not something that's expected. If I ever do get married, hopefully legally but even with just a civil union/ceremony/etc., I would probably either hyphenate is, assuming she had a relatively short last name, or I'd just take on her last name completely. The first one is because I am sort of a romantic and I like the idea of combining them, but if it were the second one it would be because her last name is better I just don't like how my first and last names sound together, haha.
I loathe my middle name and I dislike having only my "father's" last name as my own since my mom's family is basically the only family I have, so I'm going to change my middle name to my mom's maiden name (parents divorced when I was 4). Whether or not I get married (or committed, whatever), I want to change it.
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 11:51 am
I'll take my boyfriends lastname when we get married. Not because of traditions but because I want to. As we (might) know all African names have a meaning. He explained the meaning of his lastname to me once and I thought it was beautiful.
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 11:21 pm
I never knew such a thing was an issue. I guess it depends on how good of a last name my husband has
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 11:30 pm
What about your kids? How will you name them?
In the Hispanic culture, I believe, the child has their father's, and mother's last name. But to the children, they give the grandfather's names, but not the grandmother's last names. Right?
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2007 2:05 am
I think in the end a couple has to decide themselves what they want to do... I mean, sure the girl might want to take her husband/wife's name, but maybe she/he just hates her/his last name, and it takes two to tango XP
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Posted: Tue Jun 12, 2007 7:24 pm
Sini X I'll take my boyfriends lastname when we get married. Not because of traditions but because I want to. As we (might) know all African names have a meaning. He explained the meaning of his lastname to me once and I thought it was beautiful. What is your boyfriends last name and its meaning? Not to pry, I'm just curious.
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Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 5:22 am
Unfortunately I have to admit that I can't remember the whole meaning but it had something to do with "the creator". I think I have dementia or something because I always forget things ._.
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Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 2:10 am
Sini X Unfortunately I have to admit that I can't remember the whole meaning but it had something to do with "the creator". I think I have dementia or something because I always forget things ._. Is that what it's called? cuz me and my gf forget stuff all the time and we say we're sclerotic ._.
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2007 2:39 pm
 I will change mine, simply because I find my surname boring. And impossible to pronounce for English people.
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Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 9:23 am
Naming children is a good question too. Since it is US custom to take the last name of the father, I have my father's name. However, he has never been a very big part of my life and I have no connections with his family so it would make more sense for me to have my mother's name as she has raised me and I have been close with her family. I think it's really up to the kids, but they won't be able to make up their minds till their old enough.
I guess if there is a divorse though, it would make more sense for the children to take the name of their caregiver.
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Posted: Thu Jun 28, 2007 9:02 pm
Does anyone think that because the government makes the name-changing process so difficult, unless you as a woman become married, that they are encouraging patriarchy?
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